You want to say no. You've been telling yourself you'll say no. Then, before you can stop yourself, you hear the words, "Sure, I can do that.", come out your mouth. Ugh! If you're the one who went first in your family, learning how to set boundaries with family can feel almost impossible. Saying no to the people you love can feel like betrayal, but you’re only betraying yourself when you abandon your own needs. Not to mention, with the holidays coming, those family asks are about to multiply.