I believe that confidence does in fact come to us naturally. However, as we move through childhood, adolescence, and even adulthood, we experience people and situations that chip away at our confidence. Overtime, we internalize the things we hear about ourselves, which turns into negative self-talk. Think about it...when a baby is learning how to walk, do they fall and stay down? Nope! They may cry a bit, but they get back up and keep on going.